How groomed should I be down below for my first time?
Dear Mookychick,
I have been seeing a guy for a couple months, and I am a complete, I mean complete virgin, nothing past kissing. We've been talking about taking it further, but one question I've got in my mind is how well groomed I am supposed to be downstairs. Hairless? What do boys expect?
Love, Anonymous Me xxx
The Mookychick answer to your problem
Debs says...
The easiest answer to this is whatever you feel comfortable with. Seriously, if you do take it all to the next level and he doesn't do anything because he's not impressed by the way you style your pubic hair, then he really isn't worth it.
Ashley says...
Whoa, whoa, whoa. WHOA. You've never done anything past kissing and
yet you're down on yourself because you think you need a Brazilian
wax? You're not giving up your virginity for him. You're giving it up
because you want to, because you think this would be the absolutely
most fabulous way to do it. Right? RIGHT? Don't start thinking about
summer planting yet, OK? Promise Mookychick. Because it sounds like
you've been prematurely exposed to the erroneous notion that you need
to be Dita Von Teese your first night in bed - probably just because
this guy's well acquainted with professional internet poontang and not
the real thing. Exactly the kind of guy you don't need your first time
to be with. (Come on, can you imagine a guy asking an advice columnist
about if he should wax his balls and get an anal bleaching before
letting his lady fair see him without his shorts?!)
And finally, uh,
keep your, uh, lady garden regularly washed and free of disease.
That's all you need to worry about at this point.
Pull over to the
side of the submissiveness turnpike, honey, before you start offering
him Dirty Sanchez rights before he's even given you a hickie.
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