Your question: How do I get him to notice me?

The Mookychick answer to your problem

Ashley says...

Be cool.

Just be cool.

Think about celebrities. They come in contact with people all the time who are fawning, gushing, obsessed. We're all people - even this gorgeous dude at your school farts and picks his nose. So just hang back, let the dumb chicks throw themselves at him, and observe. He'll notice you whether or not you embarrass yourself if there's chemistry. If there's not, meh, his loss. It's far rarer these days for girls to present themselves as copacetic and restrained, and he'll appreciate that if he's sharp.

Magda says...

Have you had a boyfriend before? If you have, you'll know the thing to do is not to throw yourself at him - because he's got to meet you half-way and make an effort for you too, for it to work!

Okay, let's say you haven't had a huge amount of boyfriend experience, but you do like this guy, you've talked to him a bit and it's gone okay, and you want him to notice you. Since you've already talked to him, and you know a bit about him (he's from a different state) you're on the right track.

1. Show him you're a cool chick. Behave like a great person to know, but don't shine all that coolness on him - let him see what fun you are with your friends and other people in class! So really enjoy the company of your friends, be nice, make conversation - show him you're a nice person, because your friends clearly like you, so you're worth getting to know. If he's an unusual type, show off some new golden green nail polish to your friends while he's watching and ask him what he thinks. If he's kinda geeky, be fun but show your geeky side too. Okay, this might sound crazy, but you could try doing personality tests on your friends ('What animal would you like to be?' 'What kind of building would you like to be?' - and then you all make up what wanting to be a dolphin actually means). Or you could get a girlfriend who knows you like him to challenge you when he's listening and say 'hey, can you write a four line poem about each of your friends?' And then see if you can get him to want one too (and for God's sake make the poem funny and cute and not on the lines of 'I kinda fancy you'...) Basically, have a fun time, and see if he'll get involved, or at least listen in. Give him something to be attracted to. Give him prettiness and fun times and kinda interesting conversation.

2. See if you can get him talking about himself. If you see a chance to bring up where he's come from in a conversation then sure, take it. If he's new he'll be wanting to be accepted at school himself. If he does any special activities, ask about them. Don't say you want to do them yourself if you don't want to, you'll get caught out in a lie! You could maybe just say you were interested in that activity because your friends don't really do that kind of thing, and see if he'll open up and say more.

3. This is a really hard one, but don't take yourself seriously. If you make a mistake in front of him, laugh it off - acknowledge it was silly but you're too happy in yourself to worry too much about mistakes.

4. Aim for him to like you, not for him to kiss you. Set yourself an achievable aim. Then you'll feel more relaxed about achieving it.

5. Ask your friends for advice. If they say 'send him a note', be really careful - if you put loads of hearts and kisses on it you could end up with egg on your face! But if they like him too? Hell, until one of you actually gets him, it's every girl for herself!

Good luck xxx

More Mooky Advice Links

Have you got something to say about this? Then say it on the Mookychick messageboard

Back to the advice column...

www.relate.org.uk (Email counsellors about relationships)

Further links