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Your question: How to kiss
"Dear Mookychick,
I grew up (ehm, correction: am growing up) in a VERY strict Christian household. My "dating" rule broke when I turned 14, and my dad finally let me look at the opposite sex. Now; don't laugh at me just yet, I have
kissed a boy or two, once when I accidently rammed my face into Sid's glasses, breaking them and my nose. Not so romantic.. but certainly memorable. Oh, and I've made out in a movie theatre... Let's just say there was a lot of slobber and some spilled popcorn.
I don't mean to bore you, but I promise almost all of the information previously provided will prove to be... mostly sufficient. Point is: I am now dating a very experienced kisser (bad boy rebel). Okay, so I know
it's nothing long term, I'm not stupid, but it should be fun while it lasts! (and it wouldn't hurt for one boy to spread the word).
So here's my question:
How do I kiss a boy without completely embarassing myself?
HELP!
Love, Anonymous Me xxx
The Mookychick answer to your problem
Ashley says...
Are you surprised your Christian fam hasn't taught you how to kiss? I
always thought families that taught their kids how to kiss weren't
doing them any favors!
If he's an experienced kisser, he'll be the best teacher. Lean in,
relax your mouth (but not your saliva) and copy 40 percent of what he
does.
Debs says...
Well, from what you've said, you do actually know how to kiss. Which is a start.
What you seem to be worried about is whether you can kiss good enough, whether there's a right way to kiss. And you might be pleased to know that there isn't. As you go through life, snogging your way through it, with any justice, you'll find this out.
Everyone has a little trick they use when they kiss, everyone kisses in a different way. The good thing is, kiss enough people and you can pick up little tricks to use yourself. And you can keep learning. But you should never be worried that your kissing isn't up to anything. There's a couple of things that might help.
First of all, your body pretty much knows what to do. Even though I'm sure you feel you can't trust your body, it does have a good sense of what to do in any given situation, especially the physical ones. Kissing is something that really does come naturally. It's just the tweaks and stuff that makes it so much fun.
Secondly, feel the passion of the kiss. Every single moment of it, feel it. Once you let the passion free, you'll have no problem. The kissing will flow, will become something full of lips and tongues and all sorts of stuff.
As for the banging of heads, no matter how good you get at kissing, that will still, from time to time, happen. Heads will knock, teeth will bump (painfully), tongue piercings will lock. (Well, I can imagine tongue piercings could lock.) But tongues will probe, lips will be bitten (softly) and things will get steamy.
The best way to learn how to kiss is to kiss. And kiss again.
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