10 tips to becoming FIERCE!
by Stephanie Lennox
Change from who your caterpillar self into an even hotter, more confident butterfly more brains. Yes, fierce. But this isn't a word to be used lightly. Lady Gaga is fierce. Juliette Lewis is fierce. It's a hard nut to crack. Here's how to make the fierce happen.
So... how does one intuit what is right and wrong on one's (harsh) path to becoming fierce?
Be a feminist idol.
Do things that will inspire and influence other women. Okay, not just women. Do things that will inspire all people, as well as reaching your own life goals in the process. This will create respect for you from all of your peers, because no one truly respects a person with no personal ambition who isn't going anywhere.
Be your own idol.
Don't look to other people too often for inspiration. Sure, for a few fashion tips here and there maybe, but don't make it your life. Be your own idol. Don't wait for somenoe else to become the person YOU are trying to be.
Fake it till you make it
We're not talking about being fake - about being someone you're not. We're talking about gameface. If you feel like one of life's worst casualties, don't spend all your days showing your hurt, scared, victim side to people. Don't be a little lost girl. Fake a smile, fake your confidence... Hell, fake liking someone if you have to. Don't let that snotty girl next door know that you actually care what she thinks about your weight, or your makeup or clothes! Don't let your best friend know you're jealous of her sometimes! Always make yourself believe you are in control. Trust me ;)
Never, ever, ever, ever, EVER, give up.
Um... Yeah. That pretty much says it all. People help those who help themselves, and if you become one of those people always wallowing in self-pity, it doesn't make you the greatest candidate for support. Try your hardest at life; it will pay out eventually.
Know your edge.
What exactly is it that is special about you? What are your talents, your strengths? Work on them and improve them as much as you can every day. The one thing you can't fake is who you are and what you love - be you a bookworm or party animal. Everyone loves being around someone with a strong sense of self - so figure it out, and be proud of what you are.
Don't try too hard.
Don't bug people. This may seem obvious but to make new friends doesn't mean calling them every hour of the day. Same goes for a new relationship. In most cases, being subtle makes you seem more laid-back, and way sexier.
Get some experience.
Do your research, live your life and learn lessons from both. You need to know what you're talking about in all situations, because if you are trying to become a role model for people, they will come to you for advice. If world history is your thing, or fashion or hairdressing, become an expert at it. It will boost your confidence and earn your respect as a valuable source for information.
Don't be afraid.
Don't be afraid of anyone. Whatever they think, whatever they say, it's nothing. Set your mind straight about the things you love and hate, and stick to them, no matter who laughs or makes fun of them. Stick to your friends and family for advice. Like Dr. Seuss said, "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
Do somethin' world - friendly.
There's no one cooler than someone who cares about our good old planet :) Not only will you be setting a good example for people, but you'll also be...err...saving the planet.
Believe in something!
I can't stress this point enough. Make a path for others to follow. It's totally okay to be original, quirky and unique. Be creative, find a few good things to put your mind to, and with all the pointers I've given, you'll be well on the path to FIERCE.
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Proof, if any were needed, that Miss Lewis is indeed fierce.
Grace Jones is fierce. She is so fierce that - this is genuine - she eats flowers so her "shit don't stink". We really must make her a Mookychick icon one of these days.
Patti Smith. Fierce. yes.