Teen Pregnancy Blog Diary
Miranda Bone shows you her pregnancy diary and vlog covering the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Maternity clothing, myths about teenage mums, puking, discharge, taste and smell, circulation… it’s all right here. We love you Miss Bone.
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Getting pregnant at 17 isnt ideal. Ive had quite a few negative reactions, particularly from older people. Ive been called too young, Ive even been told to get it aborted. The whole pregnancy thing hasnt been made much better by the morning sickness, the sleepless nights and the hormonal changes, but theres worse that can happen than a baby.
The stereotype for teen mothers in the UK is something along the lines of single mothers, mooching on benefits and having more kids to get a bigger council flat. Im not sure how true it is as I havent met any other teenage parents. Currently Im living with my mother; I actually moved back in because of the morning sickness. My fiancé said he wanted to live here when we spoke about it – yeah, Im still with the babys dad, hes been very good to me throughout, providing backrubs and emptying my puke bucket.
Im now 26 weeks in, so about six months. Ive popped out of my normal clothing, but people have told me Im small for six months. The baby keeps moving, some nights I barely sleep because of it. Then the morning sickness will kick in and I end up feeling worse. Being tired and vomiting really isnt fun, Ive heard morning sickness stops after 12 weeks. Not true, it doesnt, it gets a bit better, some days Ill be okay and others Ill be chucking my guts up into a bucket. At the start of my pregnancy I was stuck in bed with morning sickness, before we knew I was pregnant I was puking non-stop for two weeks and lost 14kg. Because of how bad the morning sickness has been I havent been able to attend college and my social life has died, its not too bad though.
Ive never had great health, and getting pregnant seems to have made it worse. My circulations dodgy and now its got worse, Ill get cold really quickly, but with spring approaching its been getting a little better. I get from being freezing cold to boiling quickly and at random, this can be very, very bad as it sometimes leads to vomiting.
My stomach doesnt feel great, I feel bloated and stiff, I cant twist or stretch properly anymore. I normally slept lying flat on my stomach, but my bump seems to stop that now. I dont have any stretch marks yet, and Im hoping itll stay that way, Ive been rubbing body butter into my stomach and chest since week 12. My breasts really hurt for a couple of weeks. Around two months in they became tender, then they grew. My bra was too tight and crushed them inwards, but thats all sorted now. My breasts feel heavier, my nipples have darkened and theres visible veins all over them. Im also starting to lactate a small amount of white fluid.
My asthma has got a little worse, I feel tightness in my chest more often, I wheeze more and I have to take my inhaler more, but its bearable.
Vaginal discharge: Its gross but apparently normal, I just have to make sure I shower daily and keep clean down there to stop infection.
Theres also leaking; when I cough, sneeze or puke I sometimes leak urine. There was a very nasty time when I was emptying my stomach into a bucket and lost complete control of my bladder. Luckily I was at home but it was still awkward and embarrassing. I even rival my middle aged mother on use of incontinence pads – those things are a life saver for a small leak and the odd bit of discharge.
Since getting pregnant Ive noticed my hairs been really greasy; that paired with a heightened sense of smell is a disaster. My normal liquid shampoo made me feel ill, it no longer smells of flowers, just something overpowering and foul. Ive had the same problem with soaps, and some types of food. The coconut soap Im using at the moment doesnt smell of coconut anymore. I find Im having to use solid shampoo bought from Lush.
Ive also had a problem with toothpaste. Ive never liked mint but now I cant stand it, it makes me feel sick. Unfortunately all toothpaste seems to come in mint! I managed to find a lemon one in Boots which is a lot better. My gums bleed when I brush, this is apparently normal but I still find it off-putting.
Food – I seem to have gone off most starch based things like jacket potatoes, rice, noodles… but Im really into roast vegetables. There are probably other food cravings but I havent noticed them yet. The morning sickness has put me off eating, chocolate, and many other things taste horrible on the way out. Being sick also gets painful, my throat and nostrils will be burning, I get too hot, sometimes I also feel faint or dizzy, once I was shaking quite badly. Its not fun, but itll be worth it in the end.
The joys of maternity clothing? Nowhere local sells the damn things so I have to venture out. This would be okay, if I felt up to travelling. Peacocks dont seem to sell a size 8 but theyre so much cheaper than everywhere else so Ive been making do with size 10 maternity jeans and vest tops from Primark or H&M in a bigger size. The clothing is also very limited, I cant find any black jeans anywhere so Im stuck with blue. My hoodies feel tight and uncomfortable (luckily a friend crocheted a poncho for me).
Maternity underwear seems to be horrible, none of it is padded, (being small I like a bit of padding). It all seems to be underwired too, and the colours are limited to white, pink or floral. In the end I went to Ann Summers and got measured for a well-fitting bra.
As I said, it will all be worth it in the end…
Aw. Miranda and Nemo…