Sexting & the LDR

by KathTeaChin

Some oddities think there's nothing's sexier than sending a pic of a bear in a purple hat. They're right... but so very wrong. If you're in an LDR or want to try sexting, our tips explore ways to break the ice, sexting laws and the do's and don'ts of swapping photos.

Most people find long distance relationships a hassle and for many it becomes a great challenge for both parties. Technology today has made it easier for many couples to keep in touch no matter how far away they are from each other. The most accessible method of keeping in touch is through texting, which in turn allows couple to send sext messages for long distance intimacy. Sexting can contain anything from dirty texts to naughty pictures.

Sexting Tips

If you have not tried sexting before, try just talking about anything and everything that is taboo. This will get you warmed up and used to sexting with your partner. For instance, you could talk about your breast size and whether you are comfortable with it or not. You could also talk about pr4wnography, your favourite naughty websites, or racy movies.

Photos and Sexting

As you get more comfortable with the messages, some say you could send X-rated photos of yourself, however, it is advisable you don't. There are sexting laws that limit what you can and can't legally do, especially for those of you under 18 or 21, depending on country (or even those whose country bans pr4wnographic images altogether). Additionally, there is a risk of pictures getting leaked into the internet or used as blackmail. But if you really feel like sending something for your partner to keep and remember you by, perhaps a naughty picture that does not expose any naughty parts will suffice. Think classic pin-up.

Sexting and Role-playing

Once you are ready, the two of you can start talking dirty to each other, and you can do that in a huge variety of ways. One method is to talk about what you are wearing or what you are taking off. You could also help each other masturbate, telling them to fantasize about you. If you prefer, you could role-play as dominant and submissive or “play doctor” or any other kind of fantasies you could think of; just get creative. However, I would like to add that sometimes this can backfire if one or both parties are not comfortable playing a certain role. In that case, you should be honest and straight out tell your partner you are uncomfortable... and vice versa.

From my personal experience, while I don’t mind a bit of pain now and then, I have always hated being ordered around... so when my partner was playing Dom, it became a huge turn-off for me. But from then onwards, I know that we both enjoyed having me as a Domme. We now know more about each other’s preferences. Don’t be afraid to try new things. After all, if you don’t like it, you know you won’t be doing that again. I believe that both parties should be enjoying the experience rather than it being a one-way street, especially when you are both trying to maintain a long distance relationship.

Trying to keep a relationship alive can be tough and it being a long distance one is tougher. As I am personally in a long distance relationship right now, I hope that mine will survive the obstacles ahead. Good luck to you Mookychicks or Mookychaps out there who are also in an LDR and thinking of exploring sexting... keep safe and just have fun!

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