How to give the best head?

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Magda says...

Oh my golly gosh. Okay, let's take it as read that if you love each other, you don't have to be p0rnstars in bed. What's important is finding out what you both like through communications and obvious reactions in your partner to nice surprises :) Also, it's a myth that men are soulless robots who will be satisfied with mere mechanics learned off some video. Men actually want to feel like you're enjoying it, and they want to feel you're enjoying it because you're with them, not some other guy. In short, they want to make love too, not just have wild bed-shaking nooky! Also, men don't mind a few mistakes. They'd rather you weren't doing it perfectly but did appear to be enjoying yourself.

But there are probably ways to improve how you do it, and give yourself more of a fun time, too! First off, attitude. Don't approach your nice man's willy with an "Oh no, not again, it smells funny" frame of mind. Approach it like it's the best thing EVER - the biggest treat of your life. This frame of mind will carry through to every tiny thing you do for the next few minutes. You do, after all, want him to feel relaxed, loving and satisfied - same as you'd want when it's your turn.

Before you start, make sure you drink some water or juice. A good B-J needs lots of saliva (it's not dirty, just pleasant). For foreplay, make sure you're both comfortable and tease him with your hands. Sometimes it's nice to look in his eyes to make sure he's thinking rude thoughts. Eye contact can be good. A B-J isn't about how much you can scoff in one go - it's not a Peperami! Throughout the whole experience, feel free to use your hands and use plenty of saliva.

Stroking is important. Using your hands is important. Your man won't feel it's cheating - he'll love it. Using your hands as well will give your mouth a rest and is actually more pleasant for the man - lots of textures and sensations, so he doesn't quite know what is going on but is fairly sure he likes it. Stroking is all about how hard you do it and the speed you do it. You can either tease, or build to a crescendo - watch your man's reactions and experiment to see what stage he's at and what you think he'd like next.

It's a bit crude, but for the mouth bit, the helmet is his most sensitive part so you can focus on that while your hands are busy lower down. Little sucks are good. Hard sucking is excellent but tiring. You need to enjoy this for your man to enjoy this, so don't tire yourself out but do try to go for variation in what you're doing with your hands, your speed, your pressure and your licking.

Don't forget - men tend to be quite visual! So holding his eyes now and then can be good. If he's sitting in an armchair while you give a B-J, he can see you doing it from a very attractive angle, plus the chair will be really comfortable - perfect B-J conditions. If he's in bed, he might want to prop his head up with a pillow so he can catch what's going on.

Sounds can be important as well - they show that you're enjoying it. You don't need to sound like a p0rnstar, but an 'mmmmmm' now and then can make him feel like you're enjoying this, which will work wonders for his libido.

Keep experimenting and you will see what your man responds to better. And similarly, be aware of what you like yourself. Sometimes it's far easier to give than it is to receive, so if you expect communication from your man, you have to tell him what you like, as well.

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