Dating a Mormon
Dear Mookychick,
Please help with some love advice. I am having a bit of trouble with my love life. A boy and I are
rather interested in each other but there is one downfall. He's Mormon,
and I am not. Now, that alone brings up problems. In a few years he
plans to go on a mission for his church and he doesn't plan on serious
dating until after that. My question is this; do I wait for him to get back
from his mission or should I move on?
Please help!
Love, Anonymous Me xxx
The Mookychick answer to your problem
Amanda says...
You sound awfully young to commit youself to something so far in the
future! I suggest you relax a bit and take life as it comes.
Sure,
you're keen on each other now but the time and distance might prove
difficult to sustain any sort of relationship. It doesn't really sound like you
have a proper relationship to maintain, but stay friends with him while
he's away and if he's the one, you might well overcome the odds and get
together when he gets back from converting the world to mormonism.
In
the meantime, life's too short to wait in an ivory tower growing your
hair as a hobby!
Char says...
Oh god
Well I lost my virginity to a mormon when I was 15 and he 17. He was called Sid and he worked in Macdonalds. Now he went on one such mission to Salt Lake City over Christmas. Realised he could shag other mormon chicks and when he got back he dumped me and proceeded to shag lots of my friends. Now I'm not saying your mormon will do that, but bear in mind, if there's anything I've learned from men then it is this - NEVER put your life on hold for anyone, especially a man because they sure as hell won't do it for you.
If you're meant to be together, you will. Nothing will stop fate.
But I tell you, the minute you begin to fall down and pray for his return is the minute you'll lose him. Because, even though men say and do a lot, they often act on the contrary... grr it's confusing I know, but honestly, men still fall back down to basic evolutionary instincts and that's they thrive on the challenge of a woman. They remember the feeling of longing. That's what makes them come back - you need to keep a bit of fire in his belly for you.
Fair enough if you both sit down and have an adult chat about where you realistically think your relationship is going - then decide that 1) he's going to be faithful and 2) he's going to respect that you're waiting and honour you as such with phone calls, letters whichever you need.
Babe, just think about it, don't make a mug outta yourself. Live your own life by your own agenda - love will always find a way. xx
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