How to avoid going out clubbing
People. Ugh. People. We know, right? More specifically, people wanting you to go out clubbing. They can be as precious as tears of joy from a crystal unicorn – or a total (though kindly) pain in the arse. Discover how to avoid people, socialising and clubbing when you’re genuinely not up for it.
Humans are generally sociable creatures. For some, however, the idea of resting up on a sofa in front of the TV with a cup of tea in one hand and a cat in the other is far more appealing than donning your best clothes and face for a night on the tiles. And its not only the older generation: increasingly younger people are reaping the benefits of a solitary lifestyle. Recent findings have shown that those who enjoy spending time on their own are generally happier since they are content with themselves. So what do you do if youre a university student or young person fighting against the grain in a society where everyone else seems to be out every night? Relax, help is on hand!
1. Go out socialising. Just once, with an open mind. If you enjoy it, then congratulations! You will not have to burden yourself with reading the rest of this list. If, however, you associate dancing in a room full of sweaty strangers with repeatedly stabbing household nails into your eyes, then perfect. You now have ample ammunition for when people later on goad you by saying Well how do you know you wont like if it youve never tried it? Your defence mechanism is now armed.
2. You may not be able to tolerate clubbing or busy bars, but other social situations may be more bearable. Pubs offer you the opportunity to sit and actually have a conversation with a friend. Gigs allow you to concentrate on whats happening on stage, if youre not really a fan of human communication. Writing letters to someone may give you the initiative to keep in touch without the pressure of meeting up with people regularly. Its about what suits you, and what you can do to accommodate your needs.
3. Be completely upfront if someone invites you out somewhere. After my university exams, I went to Pizza Hut for a celebratory meal and some friends were encouraging me to go clubbing in the evening. I calmly put down my cutlery, looked at them, whispered: I would rather get my leg stuck down a toilet contaminated by piranhas, resumed my eating poise and took a bite of my pasta to a stunned silence. Slightly hyperbolic, but it has the desired effect.
4. Dont be ashamed, or worried you dont fit in. Everyone has their own foibles, and at the end of the day, we are all just skeletons with personalities. The world wasnt created for everyone to be carbon copies of each other. As long as you are happy with who you are and how you conduct your lifestyle, then be confident in yourself.
5. Have a way to unwind that suits you. Most people see socialising as a way to unwind from the stresses of life, which is perfectly understandable. Others like myself socialise far too much with people in working hours, and prefer to just be left alone when not on duty. Find something that helps you relax. It could be making collages or trying out different recipes like vegan cupcakes or soaking in the bath. This is especially useful if youre in a university environment. Whilst living on campus, everyone around me was partying, but I preferred to stay in my room. To allow myself some time away from studying, I would watch a DVD, read, or plan my round the world adventures.
6. Dont cut yourself off from those who love you. I know this from personal experience. My friend will invite me to the pub, Ill give my usual not feeling it speech, and she will promptly scold me with Emily, are you cutting yourself off from everyone again?! If youre of a hermetic-lifestyle disposition like myself, remind yourself that people who care about you want to see your face once in a while. Friends are important, so devote a portion of your week to catching up with them, even if its just sending them a text.
Person and cat, chilling, alone.
In a different kind of way, person and cat, chilling, alone.
This, on the other hand, is a cat, chilling, alone.